Chapter 18 is, to me, the most important chapter in my book, Making True Love—Healing Relationship Patterns Through Past Life Regression. Within several posts, a gift from my heart to you, are the lists found in Chapter 18 of Making True Love.
Please read through these lists to find some insight in, hopefully, a past relationship. These lists are to help you become acutely aware of abusive relationship warning signs.
If you are in an abusive relationship currently, I hope this motivates you or inspires you to find the courage to stand your ground, take your confidence back, and leave.
16 TRAITS AND CHARACTERISTICS OF VIOLENT OFFENDERS
- Low Frustration Tolerance—Reacts to stress in self-defeating ways, unable to cope effectively with anxiety, acts out when frustrated. Frustration leads to aggression.
- Impulsive—Is quick to act, wants immediate gratification, has little or no consideration for the consequences, lacks insight, has poor judgment, has limited cognitive filtering.
- Emotional Liability/Depression—Quick-tempered, short-fused, hot-headed, rapid mood swings, moody, sullen, irritable, humorless.
- Childhood Abuse—Sexual and physical abuse, maternal or paternal deprivation, rejection, abandonment, exposure to violent role models in the home.
- Loner—Is isolated and withdrawn, has poor interpersonal relations, has no empathy for others, lacks feelings of guilt and remorse.
- Overly Sensitive—Hypersensitive to criticism and real or perceived slights, suspicious, fearful, distrustful, paranoid.
- Altered Consciousness—Sees red, “blanking,” has blackouts, de-realization/depersonalization. (“It’s like I wasn’t there” or “It was me, but not me”), impaired reality testing, hallucinations.
- Threats of Violence—Toward self and/or others, direct, veiled, implied, or conditional.
- Blames Others—Projects blame onto others, fatalistic, external locus of control [belief they have control over their destiny], avoids personal responsibility for behavior, views self as “victim” instead of “victimizer,” self-centered, sense of entitlement.
- Chemical Abuse—Especially alcohol, opiates, amphetamines, crack, and hallucinogens (PCP, LSD), an angry drunk, dramatic personality/mood changes when under the influence.
- Mental Health Problems Requiring In-Patient Hospitalization—Especially with arrest history for any offenses prior to hospitalization.
- **History of Violence**—Towards self and others, actual physical force used to injure, harm, or damage. This element is the most significant in assessing individuals for potential dangerousness.
- Odd/Bizarre Beliefs—Superstitious, magical thinking, religiosity, sexuality, violent fantasies (especially when violence is eroticized), delusions.
- Physical Problems—Congenital defects, severe acne, scars, stuttering, any of which contribute to poor self-image, lack of self-esteem, and isolation. History of head trauma, brain damage/neurological problems.
- Preoccupation with Violence Themes—Movies, books, TV, newspaper articles, magazines (detective), music, weapon collections, guns, knives, implements of torture, S & M, Nazi paraphernalia.
- Pathological Triad/School Problems—Fire-setting, enuresis, cruelty to animals, fighting, truancy, temper tantrums, inability to get along with others, rejection of authority.
Prepared by Supervisory Special Agent Alan C. Brantley of the Critical Incident Response Group’s National Center for the Analysis of Violent Crime. It is intended to serve as a guide when conducting assessments of subjects suspected or known to be dangerous. The items included on the checklist were selected primarily on the basis of both law enforcement and mental health experience with violent offenders. Alan C. Brantley, Traits and Characteristics of Violent Offenders, FBI Academy.
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