Chapter 18 is, to me, the most important chapter in my book, Making True Love—Healing Relationship Patterns Through Past Life Regression. Within several posts, a gift from my heart to you, are the lists found in Chapter 18 of Making True Love.
Please read through these lists to find some insight in, hopefully, a past relationship. These lists are to help you become acutely aware of abusive relationship warning signs.
If you are in an abusive relationship currently, I hope this motivates you or inspires you to find the courage to stand your ground, take your confidence back, and leave.
50 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF: WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSIVE PERSONALITIES
- What do they do when they get angry? … with things? … with animals? … with people? (Threats, break things, throw things?)
- Are they cruel to animals?
- Do they resent sharing the decision making?
- Do they want the final say?
- Do they blame others for their problems?
- Do they resent or feel threatened by your goals, successes?
- Do they recognize your right to privacy and alone time to use as you choose?
- Do they object to you having your own interests?
- Do they discourage you from seeing others and want you ‘all to themselves’ … are they jealous?
- Do they treat you like a doll, a sex object, a child, a servant, or a possession?
- Do they use you as the brunt of jokes?
- Do they save up gripes to vent at home?
- Were they physically or sexually abused as a child?
- Did they witness abuse as a child?
- Do they or did they abuse their partner or children from a previous relationship? Do they say anything constructive or good about them?
- Are they cruel to their parents, grandparents, or other family members?
- Are they anti-feminist, chauvinist, anti-men, or generally resentful of women, especially in the workplace?
- Are they unreasonably uncomfortable with others’ expressing emotions?
- Do they or did their parents have a problem with alcohol and/or other drugs?
- Have they ever hit a former partner?
- Do they insist on always knowing your whereabouts? (i.e., mileage checks, frequent or unexpected phone calls, curfews, limiting phone use, controlling access to money, transportation, etc.)
- Do they seem to have no sense of others’ comfort levels or personal boundaries, pressuring an unwilling partner for favors or compliance?
- Do they claim not to feel guilt or other ‘weak’ emotions?
- Do they believe in harsh discipline?
- Do they have a low tolerance; are they easily angered?
- Do they have poor impulse control?
- Do they threaten suicide if deserted?
- Are they subject to depression?
- Are they very ‘now’ oriented; a poor planner and do not want to wait for pay-offs?
- Do they have low self-esteem?
- Are they prone to sabotage success or unable to accept success?
- Do they tend to be a loner, yet claims great closeness with victim?
- Do they have poor social skills, or believe they do?
- Do they have unrealistic standards?
- Are they hypercritical of others and/or self?
- If their ‘play’ is rough, and you call for a halt, do they cooperate?
- What is their attitude about you working? (Forbid it, sabotage it, are they unsupportive, negative, or do they try to control your decisions about work or education?
- Do they spend your money?)
- How are they in competitive situations?
- How are their communication skills? Do they downplay what others have to say, ignore others’ comments, depend on defensive or offensive remarks, take control of conversations, or do they converse at all?
- Are you afraid to talk to them, or to express an opinion?
- Are there subjects that are off limits, or that they have an extreme attitude about, and about which there is no discussion?
- Are they undependable; seem unconcerned when they don’t follow through on plans?
- Do they resent expectations that they must follow through?
- Do they neglect themselves?
- Do they expect others to tend to their needs?
- Do they have extreme mood swings in a short space of time?
- What are their morals? Are they consistent or do they downplay thievery, lying, condone killing, violence, or bigotry?
- Do they have unrealistic or fanatical expectations, judgements, plans?
- Do they seem to live in a fantasy world?
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